In the face of emotional "failure", we often comfort ourselves or others that "the next one will be better", or "you haven't met the person you are destined for", but life will go all the way after looking forward to being redeemed by the real girl or prince charming. A smooth mentality often makes us unable to truly face the difficulties and situations we encounter in our relationships.
Sternberg, a professor of psychology at Yale University, put forward the "Triangle Theory of Love" in 1986 (Figure 3-1), which is generally considered to be the most complete theory of love research at present. He believes that love consists of three elements: Passion, Intimacy and Commitment. "Passion" in love is about emotions and motivation, including attraction, sexual whatsapp list desire, or other sensory-level emotions; "intimacy" is about whether two people are willing to change from "me" to "us", including each other Communicate, understand, share life, etc. As for "commitment", there may be short-term and long-term parts, not only the commitment to a long-term relationship, but the short-term "I decided to be with her" is also a commitment to the relationship.
Good - Figure 3-1jpg Photo Credit: Courtesy of Aquarius Culture It is possible for these three elements to appear separately, and in the relationship, the three sides of the triangle will have different pulls. Of course, if the three parts exist in equal proportions, it will indeed be a very beautiful state, but in fact the relationship between people is quite diverse and changeable.